3 Pillars of Self-Discovery: A Simple Way to Discover Yourself

Self-discovery is not a journey to discover someone new, it’s a journey to break down the barriers within yourself to discover who your soul always knew you were. Your journey of self-discovery will guide you toward kindling the candle in your heart and filling the void in your soul.

In this article, you’ll learn of the three pillars of self-discovery from my book, You Deserve This Sh!t,  and how they can help you find yourself. These are the pillars I developed and used to discover myself and step into my power. They can do the same for you, too.

If you want to dive deeper into your journey of self-discovery and get unstuck, get a copy of my book or download chapter one for free below.

What Is Self-discovery?

Self-discovery is a process of understanding your own character and becoming aware of your potential and motives. If you discover yourself, you’re able to tap into your passions, figure out your life’s purpose—the reason you get up in the morning—and learn what motivates you. Ultimately, discovering who you are and what you want to do allows you to unlock the best version of yourself.

Without discovering yourself—understanding your purpose, passions, potential, and motives—you’ll never achieve something better than what you have now. You’ll choose to live a life inundated by unconsciousness and the pain that comes along with it.

Self-Discovery Toolkit

These are the tools you’ll need to support your journey of self-discovery and becoming the best version of yourself. Click below to learn everything you need to know about each topic, or continue reading for a brief overview.


Learn how to cultivate awareness and self-awareness in your life.

Comfort Zones

Learn how to get outside your comfort zone and why it’s important.

Intentional Living

Learn how to live intentionally and how it will change your life.

Finding Yourself

Learn an easy process you can use to find yourself and step into your power.


Learn how to cultivate awareness and self-awareness in your life.

Comfort Zones

Learn how to get outside your comfort zone.

Intentional Living

Learn how to live intentionally and how it will change your life.

Finding Yourself

Learn an easy process you can use to find yourself.

Three Pillars of Self-discovery

One purpose of this article is to teach you the three pillars of self-discovery—awareness, comfort zones, and intentional living—you’ll need these tools for your journey. Learning about these pillars will help you discover who you are and aid you in the process of becoming the best version of yourself. When you discover who you are, you’ll be set free of taking the wrong paths in life.

1. Awareness

The first step in discovering yourself is cultivating awareness.

Awareness is the ability to recognize what’s happening internally and externally. It will allow you to understand your character, feelings, and what inspires you. When you have that awareness, you’ll discover more about yourself and your identity will come to the surface.

If you want to discover yourself or re-invent who you are, you need to become wildly aware. You’ll begin to realize and accept the things that move you physically, emotionally, and mentally, which will lead you to your most authentic self.

Nothing can change without awareness.

Tips to Master Your Awareness

  1.  Start to journal. Journaling is my bread and butter. It lets you uncover areas of your life you didn’t know existed, helps you become aware of your thoughts, and allows you to self-reflect, which is key to becoming the best version of yourself.
  2.  Look for the small things in life. Practicing mindfulness—the practice of being aware of something—is crucial when mastering your awareness. As you begin to take note of all the small things in life, you’ll begin to open a new door to your awareness and find ways to improve certain areas of your life. Sometimes those seemingly insignificant things can teach you a great deal about yourself and others around you.
  3.  Ask yourself honest (and hard) questions. The right questions are ones that hurt to ask and also hurt to answer. Begin to ask yourself questions about your life, happiness, stress, grief, and actions. This can be a way to learn more about yourself, as it allows you to examine your own actions and motives in life.
  4.  Adapt to your surroundings. As your awareness increases, you’ll start to realize that life may be urging you to move in a specific direction. Take notice of this and evolve with that urge. Don’t resist going where life is asking you to go. Most of the time we hit a growth ceiling because we are too weary of where life wants to take us and choose to remain the same. However, when we let go and adapt to our surroundings, we can go to unimaginable places.
  5.  Practice meditation. Similar to journaling, meditation is another way to look inward and learn more about yourself. When we silence our minds, we’re able to have profound realizations. We live in an age where you can find endless amounts of guided meditations on YouTube that range in length. That is where I started my mediation journey, and it’s the perfect place for you too if you want to take this step.

2. Comfort Zones

As humans, it’s in our own nature to want to live within safety—our comfort zones; we choose comfort over discomfort. Your comfort zone is a behavioral space where you can easily minimize stress, risk, and failure. While it provides mental security and you benefit from low anxiety and stress, it keeps you from your greatest potential.

Whether you believe it or not, achieving any goal—especially the goal of discovering yourself—will require you to put yourself in some sort of uncomfortable situation or position. Living outside your comfort zone will give you an opportunity to learn more about yourself, require you to grow, and flood your life with purpose.

True living exists in places of discomfort, and everything in life begins to flourish outside our comfort zones. That’s where the magic happens.

Tips to Become Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable

  1. Build trust with yourself. You are your own biggest critic, which sometimes makes it challenging to live outside your comfort zone. You must build trust within yourself first. To do so, you need to fill your mind with positive self-talk. It’s as simple as that. Tell yourself “I can and I will.” Feed your brain the mental nutrition it needs to realize that you’re not only in control of your destiny, but you trust yourself to stand for uniqueness.
  2. Reject the normal. Grasp the understanding that you need to live the life that you want and not how others think you should live. I’ve come to realize sometimes that in order to do that, you must reject what people perceive as “normal.” Don’t search for acceptance. Surround yourself with genuine people who support your journey, they will accept you for who you are.
  3. Give yourself permission to be the beginner. Don’t get me wrong, being a beginner is never an easy situation. But you must realize that being a beginner is part of doing anything new, including investing your time in your self-discovery.
  4. Embrace your curiosity. Curiosity is innate within all of us. However, it’s been trained out of us since a young age. But forget about what society has made you believe. Embrace your inner child—your original or true self—and use your curiosity to your advantage. It changed my life, and it can change yours, too. 
  5. Learn how to use failure to your advantage. Up until now, you’ve probably seen failure as a negative. However, you can change that perspective with a simple quote from my book, You Deserve This Sh!t: “The more you fail, the more you learn, and the more you learn, the more you grow.” This quote can help you create a connection between failing and benefiting from it.

3. Intentional Living

Intentional living is putting purpose behind your choices and actions. When you live intentionally, you align with your core values, beliefs, and goals. This alignment sets you up to make decisions that naturally guide you to who you want to become; you’re constantly choosing to only do things that push you in that direction.

In other words, when you live intentionally, your choices and actions become selective. When your choices and actions are selective, you ensure they always support your journey of self-discovery and becoming the best version of yourself.

Tips to Live an Intentional Life

  1. Form a routine. The easiest way to be in the driver seat of your day is to create a morning practice that gives you the keys. Morning routines can help improve your attitude, performance, and overall energy. Be sure to create a morning routine that works for your goals and schedule.
  2. Embody positive thinking. Your thoughts are energy. They cause change both internally and externally—your mind and your actions. Your mindset truly matters, and it can be a powerful aspect to unlocking the maximum version of your character.
  3. Consciously choose your life style. Your choices and decisions can dictate your life’s path. If you want to chase a specific life or create change, you must take charge and create that world for yourself through a lifestyle developed by intentional choices. To do so, prepare to choose your lifestyle, remember the “why” behind your choice, evaluate the outcome, benefits, and repercussions, and always follow through with your choice.
  4. Aim to create good, intentional habits. We all have our personal goals, whether they relate to your journey of self-discovery or something else. However, to achieve these goals we must form habits—a system—that help us get to where we want to be. You can form new, intentional habits by asking the right questions about what habits are missing and those that need to go, incorporating the new habit into your life, evaluating its future potential for your life, and letting the habit become second nature. 
  5. Dream big, really big. Anytime you create a vision for yourself, remember that your life will be as big as your aspirations. Don’t be afraid to dream your wildest dreams; it’s these intentions that will take you to your highest potential.

Finding Yourself On Your Journey of Self-discovery

If you want to find yourself, you need to start at ground zero: the beginning of your self-discovery journey. While it may sound like a challenge outside looking in, I’ve create a simple process for you to follow in my new book, You Deserve This Sh!t. As you follow this process, you’ll learn how to develop acute awareness of your own life and values, live a life outside your comfort one, and lead with intention every day.

Understanding your path is one of the greatest feelings you can experience, and that’s what will happen when you begin to find yourself. It will allow you to align with what’s best for your soul and understand which steps you should take daily. Finding yourself and living in this alignment is key to experiencing a life fueled by purpose and fulfillment.

The Truth About Self-discovery

Now, I’m going to be honest because that’s what any good friend would do. The journey of self-discovery does not have an ending, meaning discovering who you are is an ongoing process. I’m not saying you’ll never discover your true self; however, there will always be more to learn and areas where you can dig deeper.

You will encounter different phases of your journey, and with each phase, you’ll start to understand yourself more. Your journey of self-discovery will become the healthiest addiction in your life. Embrace the process because life becomes a whole lot more exciting when you’re uncovering new parts of your soul.

Bottom Line

Self-discovery, or discovering who you were always meant to be, is an on-going process that begins by making a commitment to living the life you want to live. By using the three pillars of self-discovery—awareness, comfort zones, and intentional living—you can get unstuck, find your path, and become the best version of yourself.

Get Unstuck, Find Your Path, & Become the Best Version of Yourself

Get Unstuck, Find Your Path, & Become the Best Version of Yourself

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